Separation of the parents from the kids has never been an easy thing. The time factor does not really matter, what matters a lot is the fact that you are not close to each other. It is not only challenging to the parent but also to the kids. Most of the times you can do nothing about it, but with the following tips, you can make those trips less stressful for your family. It is quite important to know the right moment to break the news to your child about leaving. The age of the child and his temperament should guide you. Younger kids don’t really understand time intervals. Since most young children tend to be extremely anxious about their parents leaving, it is advisable to reduce the span of time you make them aware of your leaving so that the length of time to worry will be greatly reduced. For the older kids and teens, you can tell them at least three or four days before since they are more independent. However, once you realize that you have to leave instantly, ensure that you let your child know immediately and stay as calm as possible.
Ensure the child knows when you are leaving and where you will be going. One of the most sensitive information that you should not forget at all cost is letting your kid know when you will come back home. Then you can teach him to cross out one day every day that passes and that the last day marked on the calendar is when you will be coming back. By use of location maps and photos, you can disclose to the child where you will be. Older kids can find out from the internet or from the map by themselves. It is crucial to assure your child that you will keep in touch and know their status while you are away. You can also further let them know where they will stay for the time you will be away. Ensure that the kids keep to the normal routine as much as they do in other times. Let the babysitter know what is expected of her when you are away.
You can also leave short surprise notes at easy-to-find places such as favorite shoe. Bedtime can be a bit stressful. Some of the harsh goodbyes that can do more harm than good include sneaking away, acting anxiously, prolonging the departure or even showing how guilt you are. Daily check-in and chats can make your child less stressful and also giving her time to voice her concerns if any and discuss. Do not allow room for incessant calling or chatting as it can distract your attention from your traveling core duties. Ensure you trust whoever you left to handle situation at home. Creating time for you and your kid is crucial as you make her feel good and loved.